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Safety

What is BDSM? (Guide I Use for the Vanilla by HeartHannah

What is BDSM? BDSM is an acronym that stands for Bondage, Discipline, Dominance, submission, sadism, and masochism. I’ll get into what each of those means below. Note that none of these things are inherently sexual, though they can be. Some view BD...

Some Questions for Negotiation by arrogantslut

Dear Play Partners: I want to play with YOU, not just your kinks! I don't really care too much about what toys you like to use or what clothes you like to wear. Sorry -- that's all pretty interchangeable to me. I want to know what beat your perverted...

Vetting Potential Play Partners - My Approach by SunderSpren

A friend recently asked me for an opinion of someone I know in the scene. I thought I would post a part of it here on how I approach providing references and vetting other people in my own play. There is no right way, this is what I've found works we...

How to Spot and Stop Manipulators By Preston Ni, M.S.B.A

How to spot a psychological manipulator,.. Psychological manipulation can be defined as the exercise of undue influence through mental distortion and emotional exploitation, with the intention to seize power, control, benefits, and privileges at the ...

Advice from a Newbie from ShyLittleBelle

This may sound weird because I haven't been in the scene long enough to consider myself experienced, but these are a few things that I have learned rather quickly. 1. Don't be afraid to ask questions. If you are at a play party or a dungeon or someth...

Using Your Safeword Is Not a Sign of Failure By lunaKM

When learning about personal safety and BDSM you likely hear the word safeword more than once. A safeword is used as a last resort when you need the play you are engaged in to end. But there’s an unintentional negative stigma surrounding using your...

Newbies: Avoid "Community Frenzy," Protect Yourselves by Shelby_Cross

When you first enter "The Scene," you will meet a lot of new people who all seem awesome. You will be invited to munches, encouraged to attend events, and welcomed to more than a couple discussion groups. This is all great! It can also be overwhelmin...

What To Do If Your Partner Gets Triggered - by Heather_Daisy

Hello! I'm Heather Daisy, and you might remember me from such films as “What To Do If Your Partner Is Horny” and “What To Do If Your Partner Is Into Breath Play.” Today we explore the wide and wonderful world of TRIGGERS. A trigger is an acti...

Mentor VS Predator, Ways To Spot The Difference by Shelby_Cross

Since writing my last post, I've gotten a lot of messages from newbies asking me, "How do I tell the difference between someone who really wants to help me, and someone who is a predator, an exploiter, someone who just wants to take advantage of me?"...

A Message to s-types - What you really need to know (by slave namaste)

Okay - So I'm writing this because- well frankly because over the years I've heard all the "community" party lines and dogma and it seems to leave a lot out. As a slave (who used to identify as a submissive) I was new at one time (yes really!!) and w...
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