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What is BDSM? (Guide I Use for the Vanilla by HeartHannah

What is BDSM? BDSM is an acronym that stands for Bondage, Discipline, Dominance, submission, sadism, and masochism. I’ll get into what each of those means below. Note that none of these things are inherently sexual, though they can be. Some view BD...

Reference for Sexual/Romantic Orientations and More by HeartHannah

Just so I can point people here for reference, here are some common definitions of different sexualities/romantic orientations. Sexual Orientation – based on the gender(s) that you are sexually attracted to (people who you want to have intercourse...

Some Questions for Negotiation by arrogantslut

Dear Play Partners: I want to play with YOU, not just your kinks! I don't really care too much about what toys you like to use or what clothes you like to wear. Sorry -- that's all pretty interchangeable to me. I want to know what beat your perverted...

Vetting Potential Play Partners - My Approach by SunderSpren

A friend recently asked me for an opinion of someone I know in the scene. I thought I would post a part of it here on how I approach providing references and vetting other people in my own play. There is no right way, this is what I've found works we...

A Chautauqua: On D/s Philosophy - Stages of Submission by MsKestrel

I am no expert on submission or subspace, but I am an explorer in this land, and I've witnessed and experienced some wonderful and amazing events involving submission. My current journey involves a first person singular examination of the states of s...

Using Your Safeword Is Not a Sign of Failure By lunaKM

When learning about personal safety and BDSM you likely hear the word safeword more than once. A safeword is used as a last resort when you need the play you are engaged in to end. But there’s an unintentional negative stigma surrounding using your...

Single in the Scene Part I: Boundaries By charmed blyss

Recently, I was contemplating the situation of being single in the Scene because of an email I received from someone concerning interacting with male dominants. Essentially, she responded to the sexual whims of the men she met online from the space ...

Feeling down after a play session? By moonlight

One weekend, my Dominant and I had a number of really great scenes. No matter what we were doing, we were deeply connected to each other and it was blissful. I can’t even remember what we did but I remember the high I felt I was soaring on no mat...

Aging in the Lifestyle: Doing it with Grace By charmed blyss

When I first came to the community, I, as well as others like me, was a bit of a unicorn. During that time, it wasn’t the norm to see younger people in the community – younger as in under 36 or so. Most of the people I knew were 40+, and there I ...

What To Do If Your Partner Gets Triggered - by Heather_Daisy

Hello! I'm Heather Daisy, and you might remember me from such films as “What To Do If Your Partner Is Horny” and “What To Do If Your Partner Is Into Breath Play.” Today we explore the wide and wonderful world of TRIGGERS. A trigger is an acti...
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